Once you trust yourself, you never have to worry about trusting anyone else
One of the best lessons i ever learned---
When you truly trust yourself, no one can change what you believe in, it didn't matter what the world thought of Martin Luther King, or Gandhi they believed in themselves and changed the world by sticking true. You dont have to have a great cause like equality or freedom to believe in yourself, you just have to stick to your heart and trust your own judgment.
Once you trust yourself, no one will lead you astray again, they might try to convince you to lend them that money, or come to that party, but you know better, you get that feeling like, --they havent earned that yet--- or --i dont think this is a good idea-- and if you can TRUST YOURSELF you wouldn't end up lending them that money or telling them that secret..... because you would trust yourself enough to know the answer
Life changes when you change yourself, stick to your word, your mind, your honor!...be your own best friend....if a situation happens and you dont know how to react, imagine your best friend is in front of you and whatever she/he would say YOU SAY, be your own bff when one is not readily available,
Love yourself----and life will only improve
Saturday, May 11, 2013
Saturday, April 27, 2013
Perspective, picking your friends
:D You are only as crazy as who u compare yourself too......
If your passion is food, your a chef and you love to cook, especially decadent, juicy meals, you probably want to hangout with other people who love food, love to eat
If you hang out with people who hate food, eat only fast food, and have no passion for food they can make you feel crazy for being yourself
Same goes for anything in life, and as much as people would like to be the only one that like that, the world is filled with groups of your type of people, NO ONE is exactly like you but many people will share your interests, your music, your food, your passions, your feelings and spectrum of emotion!
it's important to find these people, having a safe group of people who only enhance you, love you for who you are and you love them back, when i see groups of people with friends who make them feel wierd, crazy, unordinary DUMP THOSE FRIENDS just because someone is there doesn't mean there worthy of your time! remember if you dont value your time who will???
If your bipolar rockstar, find other people on the same wavelength, ones who like music, who understand mania and depression.....if you love poetry find poets, artists, musicians
So on....and so on.... Find your zen in your group and it will take WORK...now work= effort, sacrifice, and commitment... its dumping the people that make you feel strange, and filling your life with people who make you feel exceptional! after a while all you will feel is exceptional!!
With social media, internet, school clubs, and million other ways you can meet people with similar interests and on similar wavelengths, so find people on your wavelength and ride that wave with them straight on your journey!!
If your passion is food, your a chef and you love to cook, especially decadent, juicy meals, you probably want to hangout with other people who love food, love to eat
If you hang out with people who hate food, eat only fast food, and have no passion for food they can make you feel crazy for being yourself
Same goes for anything in life, and as much as people would like to be the only one that like that, the world is filled with groups of your type of people, NO ONE is exactly like you but many people will share your interests, your music, your food, your passions, your feelings and spectrum of emotion!
it's important to find these people, having a safe group of people who only enhance you, love you for who you are and you love them back, when i see groups of people with friends who make them feel wierd, crazy, unordinary DUMP THOSE FRIENDS just because someone is there doesn't mean there worthy of your time! remember if you dont value your time who will???
If your bipolar rockstar, find other people on the same wavelength, ones who like music, who understand mania and depression.....if you love poetry find poets, artists, musicians
So on....and so on.... Find your zen in your group and it will take WORK...now work= effort, sacrifice, and commitment... its dumping the people that make you feel strange, and filling your life with people who make you feel exceptional! after a while all you will feel is exceptional!!
With social media, internet, school clubs, and million other ways you can meet people with similar interests and on similar wavelengths, so find people on your wavelength and ride that wave with them straight on your journey!!
Friday, April 12, 2013
Surprisingly after finding Zen with most things in life,
Partying/Working
Traveling/Responsibility
School/Work
Family/Life
Friends/Life
I find the hardest part of my life to find a zen in right now is food, food is like anything in life important you find a happy balance, a love for food without too much an obsession one way or another. Its bad to crave food constantly and the same foods, processed sugars are a drug, and have to be careful with cakes, cookies, sweets, chips, fried foods and have balance with food
Vegetables, fruits, protein, whole grains, Min amount of carbs, dairy and keeping everything fresh, correct portions, and variety.
I find it hard to constantly eat everything, i do pretty well and then i bake a cake with friends or chocolate strawberries and i find myself in sugar binges and carb binges. Like anything in life if you want to be happy with your body and food, Zen must be found in all ways of nutriton, with food being the first. Once your balanced with food time to move onto balance with activity level, exercise and relaxation.
I try to keep a food journal now, it helps me see where i loose balance and surprisingly those are the days i also feel emotionally off balance, physically, and can;t sleep from sugar or have stomach aces/headaches.
Partying/Working
Traveling/Responsibility
School/Work
Family/Life
Friends/Life
I find the hardest part of my life to find a zen in right now is food, food is like anything in life important you find a happy balance, a love for food without too much an obsession one way or another. Its bad to crave food constantly and the same foods, processed sugars are a drug, and have to be careful with cakes, cookies, sweets, chips, fried foods and have balance with food
Vegetables, fruits, protein, whole grains, Min amount of carbs, dairy and keeping everything fresh, correct portions, and variety.
I find it hard to constantly eat everything, i do pretty well and then i bake a cake with friends or chocolate strawberries and i find myself in sugar binges and carb binges. Like anything in life if you want to be happy with your body and food, Zen must be found in all ways of nutriton, with food being the first. Once your balanced with food time to move onto balance with activity level, exercise and relaxation.
I try to keep a food journal now, it helps me see where i loose balance and surprisingly those are the days i also feel emotionally off balance, physically, and can;t sleep from sugar or have stomach aces/headaches.
Most important thing i ever learned was Not to worry about anything i couldn't control,
seems simple enough.... but yet people seem to struggle with this everyday and sometimes dont even realize they are doing it. The other thing was To realize how much control you really have'
Both are very important to have balance in life, happiness, and true inner peace, once you have those basics down, finding zen in every other aspect of your life is much easier,
To give a great example, When girlfriends or boyfriends spend time worrying about what there significant other is doing or feeling. You can't control if your significant other is cheating, lying, happy, or sad, not there are things you can control which is the second part but for now were gonna discuss the first part. Trying to control other people, or worrying about how other people act is ridiculous, you may as well worry about the weather because you have about as much control over other people as you do in changing the weather.
You can only control you, if you feel an issue is arrising you can control asking whats wrong? but if they dont choose to share with you that is there choice to make.
People spend too many hours worrying about things they will never be able to change.
Now Only worrying about what you do isn't easy and takes years of practicing, and training the mind, but NOTHING worthwhile is easy, and if you use these techniques within a year your way of thinking will change naturally, Fake it til you make it :D
When an issue arrises think first:
Example: Best friend cancels to go to movies with you last minuete, says she's not feeling well and you took the night off work for this movie night. Now some people would get upset start wondering if there something wrong with them? build stories in there head like "she's just too lazy" "she just doesn't care enough", "she is a bad friend" or even "she prob is going out with other people tonight! who stays home on friday."
All this up there is making up stories, stories in your head with no fact, evidence, and all of them seem to be hurtful only to you.
Now for the Rules: lets try them
1. I'm her friend, now i can make two choices in this i can decide she is lying and therefore stop talking to someone who would lie to me, and make the choice to stop being her friend. Or i can believe her, what if she's home puking her guts out? or has major diarrhea, maybe her sinus are so clogged she can't breath and is sitting in bed with nyquil, tissues, and soup. Either one of those options are yours to make, and the one you choose you stick to and move on (Never Dwell in the Past, it will only lead you dark places) *discuss that another time.
2. No i can't, shes sick, What i CAN do is call someone else and plan my night, see if she wants me to come over and take care of her, or plan a lovely night by myself working on one of those 100 of things i said i would do if i ever got a night alone.
3. Worrying about her and weather she lied to me or not will not help anything, will only make my mind run with wild stories, and will only hurt me so no need to think about it twice, when it pops in the head with those crazy ideas FIGHT IT....your mind can be a dangerous place, tell it "Shut up, shes a good friend and those ideas are silly and with NO PROOF"....or "yeah so she's a liar i wont talk to her anymore and to move on with my night,"
Now with any situation, Work, Social, spiritual, anything think these steps before letting your mind lead you down a dangerous path.
Sadly we can't trust our own minds, the mind of an addict craves the drugs even if destroys there life, and the mind of a diabetic craves the sugar even if there gonna die, the mind of someone racist tells them to hate based on color of skin, --- You can't always trust your mind, but you can trust facts, looking at the evidence, and if you are lucky enough build a support system of people who as a collective you can trust.
seems simple enough.... but yet people seem to struggle with this everyday and sometimes dont even realize they are doing it. The other thing was To realize how much control you really have'
Both are very important to have balance in life, happiness, and true inner peace, once you have those basics down, finding zen in every other aspect of your life is much easier,
To give a great example, When girlfriends or boyfriends spend time worrying about what there significant other is doing or feeling. You can't control if your significant other is cheating, lying, happy, or sad, not there are things you can control which is the second part but for now were gonna discuss the first part. Trying to control other people, or worrying about how other people act is ridiculous, you may as well worry about the weather because you have about as much control over other people as you do in changing the weather.
You can only control you, if you feel an issue is arrising you can control asking whats wrong? but if they dont choose to share with you that is there choice to make.
People spend too many hours worrying about things they will never be able to change.
Now Only worrying about what you do isn't easy and takes years of practicing, and training the mind, but NOTHING worthwhile is easy, and if you use these techniques within a year your way of thinking will change naturally, Fake it til you make it :D
When an issue arrises think first:
- What role do i play in this?
- Can i change this?
- Will worrying about this make the situation better?
Example: Best friend cancels to go to movies with you last minuete, says she's not feeling well and you took the night off work for this movie night. Now some people would get upset start wondering if there something wrong with them? build stories in there head like "she's just too lazy" "she just doesn't care enough", "she is a bad friend" or even "she prob is going out with other people tonight! who stays home on friday."
All this up there is making up stories, stories in your head with no fact, evidence, and all of them seem to be hurtful only to you.
Now for the Rules: lets try them
1. I'm her friend, now i can make two choices in this i can decide she is lying and therefore stop talking to someone who would lie to me, and make the choice to stop being her friend. Or i can believe her, what if she's home puking her guts out? or has major diarrhea, maybe her sinus are so clogged she can't breath and is sitting in bed with nyquil, tissues, and soup. Either one of those options are yours to make, and the one you choose you stick to and move on (Never Dwell in the Past, it will only lead you dark places) *discuss that another time.
2. No i can't, shes sick, What i CAN do is call someone else and plan my night, see if she wants me to come over and take care of her, or plan a lovely night by myself working on one of those 100 of things i said i would do if i ever got a night alone.
3. Worrying about her and weather she lied to me or not will not help anything, will only make my mind run with wild stories, and will only hurt me so no need to think about it twice, when it pops in the head with those crazy ideas FIGHT IT....your mind can be a dangerous place, tell it "Shut up, shes a good friend and those ideas are silly and with NO PROOF"....or "yeah so she's a liar i wont talk to her anymore and to move on with my night,"
Now with any situation, Work, Social, spiritual, anything think these steps before letting your mind lead you down a dangerous path.
Sadly we can't trust our own minds, the mind of an addict craves the drugs even if destroys there life, and the mind of a diabetic craves the sugar even if there gonna die, the mind of someone racist tells them to hate based on color of skin, --- You can't always trust your mind, but you can trust facts, looking at the evidence, and if you are lucky enough build a support system of people who as a collective you can trust.
Zen,
We all have heard this word one way or another, finding inner happiness, finding a balance in all things in life, with friends, with love, with fun, with work, and even with food. Finding Zen in everything is possible, for anyone but perspective is what its all about. I'm lucky enough to have found a very inner peace, and inner happiness, and hopefully i can spread this to the world :D
Blog on....
We all have heard this word one way or another, finding inner happiness, finding a balance in all things in life, with friends, with love, with fun, with work, and even with food. Finding Zen in everything is possible, for anyone but perspective is what its all about. I'm lucky enough to have found a very inner peace, and inner happiness, and hopefully i can spread this to the world :D
Blog on....
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